Handbook

Conflict Strategies

For Nice People

In this handbook, there are six techniques you can use to get out of the spiral of unproductive conflict and start contributing to constructive solutions. I call these six techniques the Conflict Strategies for Nice People because each one unlocks a workable solution in a way that’s calm and respectful.

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